Being a good girlfriend is treating your man the way you want to be treated. It’s the whole Golden Rule Thing.
For something that seems so simple and easy dating and relationships are not the easiest activity to partake in! They require time, energy and some emotional investment on both partners.They require a basic understanding of the fundamentals of communication, honesty and empathy.
While encouraging you to treat your boyfriend how you want to be treated, that’s a generalization. We all have different quirks and desires. You might love kissing in public, while he hates it. So don’t kiss him more because that’s how you want to be treated.
Being in a serious relationship we don’t have all the answers. Still I know that my boyfriend, holds a high standard for himself when it comes to being a good boyfriend just by the way he loves me. And I also always try to be a better girlfriend.
However, a successful partnership requires both people holding themselves accountable while also sharpening one another and helping one another grow. There are times my boyfriend let’s me down and I’m sure there have been times I let him down.
I always make him know how much I appreciate him, and how special he is to me. I behave like his personal cheerleader. When he get some big opportunity, I always in the front row cheering for him. If he’s going through something tough, I always be the shoulder he lean on.
Sometimes when my boyfriend and I get an argument, I have to take some space to collect my thoughts. Even when I’m still angry, I try to take a minute to send him a text and tell him that I still love and cherish him.
When I take a moment to collect myself and then approach him with a calm and even encouraging word, both of our anger subsides and we resolve the issue faster and more effectively.
If you’re wondering what it takes on, how to be a good girlfriend coming on too strong or seeming desperate, take a look:
- Trust Him
Put your feelings aside because there were people in their lives before you and they will continue to be in their lives, assuming these are people close to your partner. So even if you don’t like some of them or even one, get over it. Be accepting and warm. Realize that he’s not the guy broke your heart in the past. He’s not guilty of past transgressions. So trust him a little let him in.
- Give Him Space
Remember, he needs his alone time too. There are women who have trouble with accepting the fact that men sometimes need their space. And yea, they may brush that need aside when you first start dating either they’re so excited to spend all their time with you or because they worry that they’ll put you off with that need to be apart from you. But as you settle into a relationship, they get more comfortable letting you know that they need space. If you really want to work on how to be a good girlfriend, give him that space when he needs it. Don’t take it personally, use that time to be by yourself or with your friends.
- Compliment Him
One of the best ways you can encourage him is to encourage him publicly. Show the world you’re proud who he is. If you don’t really feel proud of who he is and can’t do this genuinely, you may want to reconsider the relationship. You should be proud of your man and he should be proud of you! Don’t be afraid to make this known.
Being a good girlfriend doesn’t take a lot, but it requires you to pay attention and open to learn.